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Have you ever gotten some news that pretty much kind of change your whole perception of how you are I’m what?!? Hi guys and welcome back to my videos I as you guess from the title of the video this is my DNA results test woop woo so I’m going to be giving you a run down of three things first of all why I decided to take the test test second of all little bit about the process and finally the results yeah I know what my fingers doesn’t work so first of all reasons why I decided to take the test As you guys know from my channel if you guys have been following me I’m a Chinese Adoptee and I decided to the test because i as an adoptee I just don’t know anything about my ancestry about my possible health or traits or anything so really for me a DNA test was something, an insight to effectivley who I am I guess an insight to where I come from and what my parents might have been like and things it was really a desire to know one’s origins and I’ve always been told you don’t look Chinese so there’s always been that kind of question the back of my mind even though I’ve always said that I’m Chinese I’ve never said otherwise, I decided to look online and have a good different companies that do tests i decided to go with 23andme, which is an american company and the reason why decided to go for 23andMe is that I felt that they had a really detailed ancestry composition, they looked really user friendly and they have a detailed health composition as well also from 23andMe you can use the results of that and download the raw data and i’m upload it to different websites the process of getting results , so first of all you have to go on the website and buy the kit, the kit is not cheap guys I will not lie to you i bought it was around £125 I think that is something you have to really consider when you buy a DNA test, it isn’t a cheap thing and I think many people say “Why do you need a kit to tell you that you’re asian?” you probably know that I mean granted, I was figured that anyway but it wasn’t it wasn’t really that for me, I think it for me personally whatever results were going to be I said to myself i’m not gonna be disappointed because at least then I’ll know because I come from a position where I don’t know anything knowing something at all just be great and I always said to myself I’m not asian, if I’m not Chinese I’m not going to be disappointed because at least I know, at least I have that information I did send the kit off in July as we notice now it is October the reason for this delay is because they lost my first shipment and it about four weeks to discover that lost it so I start again and I didn’t get another one until august, so I sent it off in about September, so it is about about 4-6 weeks , so according to the 23andMe and the speculative results which there are 50% sure that this is what my DNA is is I’m majority Chinese, 90% Chinese 7.5 % Korean 0.3% Japanese and a little bit less mongolian, they also have a list of Health and traits results luckily I was really glad to see that I didn’t in didn’t have any inherited conditions or I was interested to find out that it said that I most likely Lactose Intolerant as we know with genes that you can possess genes obviously it depends environment factors and things which genes get turned on and off so obviously even though I may posess these genes these may not exactly apply to my life also on 23andMe there are these the option of finding your relatives while the most interesting thing about being part korean was in fact that most of my relatives were other Korean adoptees which is interesting because i’m a Chinese adoptee but most of my close relatives which was 3rd to 6th cousins or Korean adoptees, I didn’t find anything obviously any kind of close relatives but I didn’t expect to, I decided to upload my results to WeGene WeGene is a chinese company which specifically deals with asian origins and others but it’s has a much larger database than 23andMe one of the main reasons I wanted to go with 23andMe actually was that I was really keen to upload it on WeGene it came back with only 79% Chinese I really think that between this variation I’m somewhere between 60 to 90 % Chinese that the other half, it said was entirely Korean so I am 1/5 Korean Korean now the reason for this variation within these results is exactly clear but I can say that WeGene has a much larger database for asian ethnicity and asian origins so in some ways I feel like I’m more inclined to say that this might be more accurate, but it is undeniable that both tests confirmed that i’m at least part Korean which was kind of a pretty big surprise for me I never really thought about it What was interesting as well about WeGene was the fact that it said that I was Northern Han which would explain the Mongolian as well and have tiny little bit She so it’s pretty interesting now look into the history of how Chinese and Koreans cross over as well and I guess it’s so now i’m going to look forward to looking into in the future, so with regards to how I feel about now being Chinese and Korean because i know that there’s definitely a good chance that i am somewhere between 7% and a 1/5 Korean possibly even one of my grandparents or even just further back than that I could be Korean with regards about how I feel i’ll be honest with you guys, not that different you know I think that’s all thats going to change now is that when people asked me what ethnicity I am I’m gonna say Chinese and Korean, some people have asked me saying “Do you feel less Chinese now knowing that you’re not full Chinese? ” I don’t personally because i know i’m still between 60-90% Chinese, i’m still Chinese just because I’m now Korean doesn’t mean that I’m not trying anymore, I can be both, I think it’s always i’m now probably use this opportunity to discover more about my Korean side you know, it’s going to be a great opportunity even more food travel places and maybe learn the language which sounds pretty cool and yes it’s pretty cool and you know I guess in the end of the day now I kind of feel however else feels that now I know, it’s just a fact it’s not something that agonise over anymore, I used to think about it about it for ages, and now that quest is over and I guess that’s been fulfilled and now that i have I guess, I just I feel ok I don’t feel sad about it anymore I don’t feel that I’d really like to know anymore, because now I know if you have any questions for me or any questions about DNA results feel free to drop in the comments below don’t forget to Like subscribe this video and I don’t know if guys know but i have snapchat now don’t forget to add me on snapchat which is NaoImHere and also don’t forget to check out my interview which I did recently with “Our Chinese stories” about being a Chinese Adoptee In the United kingdom okay thanks so much for watching this video guys i hope to see you soon and I guess it’s 안녕히 가세요. Anyoung hee gaseyo from me guys need to work in that Korean but yeah peace out


– Why did you choose to adopt? Don’t you dare start crying yet. (both laugh) (classical music) – I’m Cynthia. – I’m Tabitha. – Anna Gonzalez. – I’m Connie Gonzalez. – I am a the proud father of my wonderful daughter. – Do you love that, he’s proud! My name’s Marissa, I was adopted. – My cousin passed away, her mom was my cousin. – I think I came up here when I was like eight and then I didn’t get adopted till ten, ’cause the process is stupid long. – Four, they were all adopted from foster care, she’s the oldest, she’s 21. – You wanna go first? – Sure, ooh. – Grab one, don’t get crazy. – Have you ever caught me masturbating or having sex? (laughing) – Um I haven’t caught the full act, I like walked into the den in the back, and I was like (retching) He was alone! – Have you ever caught me masturbating or having sex? – No, like okay, she’s a virgin. That’s what she’s told me for years – I’ve always told her I for years! was a virgin ’cause I see you don’t sound positive never wanted her to have sex there and hold on, are you not a virgin? – I’m gonna drink.


(both laughing) – Are you serious, alright my mind’s already blown let’s go. – I cannot ask this question. – That’s okay just ask it. – Have you ever had a threesome, and would you? Please don’t answer that. – Alright. – Have you ever had a threesome and would you? – No. – No? – No. – Okay. I don’t know that first question threw me off, I don’t know if I trust you (laughs). – Have you had a threesome Connie? – I’mma take a shot. (both laughing) – Can we drink to that? – I can say no, but we can still have a drink. – Uh, we’re drinking. – Oh okay. (both laughing) – Shit. – Oh this is a good one. – Uh-oh is it a sex question? – No no no no, what’s the most annoying comment you hear when people find out you’re adopted? – Oh my god I’m so sorry, so many people think it’s a bad thing, and it’s honestly it’s the best blessing. – I always hate it when people say, where’s your real mom. – Yeah I know, like uh right here because this is the bitch who got up in the middle of the night every time that kid was sick, couldn’t sleep, or was having a night terror, that was me.


– How would things be different between us if I was your biological child? – I don’t think any different. – You don’t think it would’ve felt different if I was like blood – No or anything – no you are blood! I am blood so luckily – Oh I hate when you say that – Oh you used to say that a lot, oh I’m not blood, I’m like yes you are. – (sighs) Great, what’s something that I do that embarrasses you? – Everything. (both laughing) – Thanks. – Well you’re just loud. – Oh well I’m a communicator, you’re not the communicator. So you don’t really talk yeah – Not a talker. – Let’s not talk about that. – Okay, I’ll just drink, here you too. – Okay I’m not complaining. – List all the illicit drugs you have tried. – I’ve definitely tried some psychedelics, like shrooms and acid, you should try it sometime. – No. – I recommend it – No.


I highly recommend it. – I told you recently that I had just gotten sober off of smoking meth, yeah I was doing that for about two years. I did try heroin, one, one time, I didn’t like it, and thank god for that, um. – Why did you think you needed that? – I was really sad that mom passed away, and it felt like it was the only thing I could do to keep my mind off of losing her. So I love you, thank you for keeping me alive, but that’s that. – Okay, why did you choose to adopt? – I never was one of those people who felt like I needed to have a biological child. But then as soon as I met you and you came toddling up with your little glasses I knew that you were my daughter. – Your mom wanted to have kids, and um. – Didn’t you have a vasectomy? – and I had a vas– like a reverse? – Yeah I had a vasectomy and I had it reversed, well very difficult to get pregnant with that consideration, so we wind up going, you know what’s our choices, adoptions.


– You adopting me, kind of got thrown on you. – No it was never thrown on me trust me I was fighting for you. – Don’t you dare start crying yet. – I was just so happy to get you. – Oh my crybaby (laughs), play a new game, take a shot every time you cry. (both laughing) – What’s something you wish I had done differently, around your adoption? – You and mom both handled it better than I could have ever hoped for.



I’ve always known that I was wanted, I think it was perfect just the way you did it. – You tried to be my friend too much, so when I got older and you tried to be a parent it was really hard for me to look at you like that. – I have no other kids, just her. – Her one and only. – I mean I don’t want, I never wanted my cousin to pass away to get her. – But you did, and I’m here. Don’t worry I’m happy to be with you. – No ’cause I don’t think you really understand that I wanted you, so bad. – I never doubted that you wanted me, but now I know, I know and I appreciate it, I love you, I do.


– Do you send nude images to the people you’re dating? – Oh my god. – You don’t have to answer it, I know that you do. (laughing) – Let me just drink. – Wait I already answered it for you, no this is fun, shit if I looked like you I’d be naked right now. – Oh my god. (laughing) – Here we are, last one, do you wish you had been raised by your biological parents? – Fuck no, no, you’ve shown me so many things. Whether it be compassion for other people, or the genuine thirst for knowledge that you’ve had, or how many times you got up to help mom when she was sick. There are so many things, and I would never give them up, for any person even my biological parents. – You are my real mom, you raised me and they didn’t, so I’m thankful for you. – Thanks, I’m thankful for you too. – Honestly, it breaks my heart to even think about not having my mom, so I don’t even want to put myself in that scenario. I would do anything to be with her, but I would love for her to be here with us.


– The only thing I would never have wanted, was your father to follow. If I could get away with it I probably would’ve run him over. – Yeah so– (laughing) – I don’t wanna cry, uh, I like you. – I like you very much – you da best. – You’re my best friend, honestly, like seriously you’re my best friend. – You’re not my best friend (laughing) – So fucking rude. – Remember what I used to tell you? – Yeah okay you’re famous saying, I don’t like you but I love you. Well I like you and I love you, asshole.


(both laughing) – That was good. – Yeah it wasn’t bad – Was that fun? – Yeah it wasn’t nearly scary as I thought it was gonna be. – I’m glad you did it. – I know (laughs). – I think it was good, it was a lot more eye opening than I thought ’cause I thought we were really open with each other, but then realizing that there are a few questions that I never thought to ask, or like there are a few questions that I never wanted to fucking ask. But, but I like to know more about you, and I’m glad that we did this. – Absolutely. (laughing) .

Man: MY ADOPTION DAY WAS APRIL 20, AND IT WAS A WEEK BEFORE MY BIRTHDAY, AND I TURNED 18. Man #2: I WAS 17 YEARS OLD WHEN I GOT ADOPTED. Man #3: I WAS 18 WHEN I GOT ADOPTED. Man #2: SO, I CALLED MY MOM — AT THE TIME, MY FRIEND’S MOM — AND I TOLD HER, “HEY, MS. JULIE, YOU KNOW, I’M IN A SITUATION RIGHT NOW, AND, YOU KNOW, BASICALLY, I DON’T HAVE A HOME TO GO TO. I’M NOT SURE WHAT’S GONNA HAPPEN NEXT.” IT TOOK SOME TIME. SHE THOUGHT ABOUT IT FOR A FEW SECONDS. AND SHE TOLD ME THAT SHE WOULD — YOU KNOW, SHE WOULD DO WHAT SHE HAS TO DO. SHE WOULD COME AND VISIT ME, AND, YOU KNOW, HER SMILE WOULD JUST LIGHTEN UP MY DAY. Man #1: I MET THEM THROUGH AN ADOPTION PARTY. I ACTUALLY DIDN’T KNOW, BUT — I HADN’T HEARD ABOUT A FAMILY GOING TO BE THERE TO SEE ME. I HAD SOME VISITS WITH THEM AFTER, SOME DATES WITH THEM, GOING OUT TO DINNER, STAYING OVERNIGHT. AND IT WAS GREAT JUST BEING ABLE TO CONNECT WITH THEM RIGHT BEFORE THE ADOPTION SO THAT I COULD KNOW THAT IT WOULD BE A PERFECT FIT.


MY ADOPTION DAY WAS FILLED WITH A LOT OF JOY. Man #3: I MET MY FAMILY IN WEDNESDAY’S CHILD. THE ONLY THING THAT I REMEMBER IS MY MOM CRYING WHEN THE JUDGE SIGNED THE PAPER. SHE WAS EXCITED. SHE… BECAUSE WHEN THE JUDGE SIGNED THE PAPER SHE INSTANTLY STARTED CRYING. I HAD A HOME TO GO TO, AND I HAD A FAMILY THAT CARED FOR ME AND SUPPORTED ME, ANYTHING THAT I DO IN LIFE. Man #1: A COUPLE OF TIMES, I HAVE BEEN PLACED IN FAMILIES, AND IT UNFORTUNATELY DIDN’T WORK OUT FOR THE REASON THAT IT DID, BUT EACH AND EVERY HOUSE THAT I’VE BEEN IN HAS MOLDED ME TO THE PERSON I AM TODAY, AND I DON’T REGRET THINGS HAPPENING THE WAY THEY DID. Man #2: IT’S JUST, WHEN I LOOK BACK ON EVERYTHING THAT I’VE GONE THROUGH AND I SEE EVERYTHING I LONGED FOR IN THE FAMILY — INSIDE OF MY FAMILY THAT I HAVE NOW. Man #3: I DON’T TELL THEM OFTEN THAT I LOVE THEM, BUT I SHOW THEM HOW I LOVE THEM. Man #1: I MEAN, TODAY, I DON’T NEED TO SAY A WORD ABOUT NOT HAVING A FAMILY, ‘CAUSE I KNOW I HAVE ONE.


ONCE I GO OFF TO COLLEGE, I’LL HAVE A PLACE TO COME BACK HOME TO. BUT IT’S MUCH MORE THAN JUST THAT. IT’S BEING ABLE TO BE ASSURED THAT IF I’M EVER IN ANY TROUBLE, I HAVE SOMEONE TO CALL. Man #3: A WORD CAN NEVER DESCRIBE THAT. IT’S THE FEELING OF LOVE, OF BASICALLY IF I GO, LIKE, TO A UNIVERSITY, I KNOW THAT I HAVE A PLACE AT HOME TO BE SAFE AND BE LOVED. Man #2: I’VE LONGED FOR CONSISTENCY.


I’VE JUST LONGED TO BE LOVED. I’VE LONGED TO BE, YOU KNOW, HELD. I’VE LONGED TO BE IN A HOME. AND WHEN ADOPTION WAS FINALIZED, YOU KNOW, I JUST CRIED, BECAUSE I JUST THOUGHT THAT EVERYTHING I WANTED, I SEE IN THIS LADY. Man #3: IT’S TEAMWORK. SO BASICALLY, WE SUPPORT EACH OTHER THROUGH EVERYTHING. Man #2: IT’S GONE FROM NIGHT TO DAY IN A SPAN OF, YOU KNOW, I GUESS, TWO, THREE, SIX YEARS. Man #3: I LOVE MY PARENTS. I REALLY DO. EVERYTHING IS DIFFERENT. THE HOLIDAY IS DIFFERENT. Man #2: IN MY HOME, WE HAVE A PRETTY DIFFERENT HOLIDAY EXPERIENCE, AND IT’S ONE THAT I’LL SHARE WITH MY KIDS. MY MOM, SHE DOES THIS THING WHERE, EVERY CHRISTMAS, SHE BUYS US PAJAMAS, AND IT DOESN’T MATTER HOW OLD WE GET. WE STILL GET THE PAJAMAS.



AND MY FIRST HOLIDAY — CHRISTMAS, ACTUALLY — SHE BOUGHT MY BROTHER AND I A PAIR OF PAJAMAS, AND, OF COURSE, THEY WERE DIFFERENT COLORS. AND, YOU KNOW, YOU WOULD THINK THAT THE OLDER YOU GET, YOU KNOW, YOU WOULD KIND OF GET TIRED OF PAJAMAS, BUT EVEN AT THE AGE OF 22, I STILL WANT THOSE PAJAMAS. Man #1: MOVE-IN DAY WAS ACTUALLY CHRISTMAS EVE. SO CHRISTMAS WAS THE NEXT DAY. AND I REMEMBER JUST GOING DOWNSTAIRS AND SEEING ALL THE RELATIVES AND SEEING HOW DIFFERENT — AT THAT MOMENT, I KNEW IT WAS DIFFERENT. THE FAMILY DYNAMICS WERE DIFFERENT, BECAUSE IN OUR HOUSEHOLD, WE DON’T WRAP GIFTS. THEY’RE ALREADY OUT. Man #2: HOLIDAYS ARE JUST SO FUN, HAVING A FAMILY THERE.


IT’S DIFFERENT THAN SPENDING — YOU KNOW, I DON’T KNOW WHAT I WOULD HAVE DONE IF I HAD TO SPEND THOSE HOLIDAYS ALONE. IT’S NOT EVEN ABOUT THE HOLIDAY. EVERY DAY IS A HOLIDAY, HONESTLY, WHEN I GET THE CHANCE TO BE WITH MY FAMILY. Man #3: SOCIAL WORKERS HAVE A BIG IMPACT ON EVERYBODY. Man #1: THE SOCIAL WORKER IS THERE TO FIND YOU A HOME, AND YOU’RE THERE TO PUT YOUR 2 CENTS SO THAT YOU CAN MAKE SURE THE PLACEMENT IS THE RIGHT PLACEMENT. Man #2: BE AS CONSISTENT, YOU KNOW, SUPPORTIVE, ENCOURAGING. US KIDS, YOU KNOW, TEENAGERS, WE HAVE THE TENDENCY TO BASICALLY LIVE OFF OF THE SOCIAL WORKERS’ DESIRE AND THRIVES IN ENCOURAGEMENT AND SMILES. Man #1: IT’S GONNA MAKE THEM FEEL LIKE THEY’RE WORTH SOMETHING, AND THEN IT’S GONNA MAKE THEM FEEL LIKE THEY’RE ON TOP OF THE WORLD. Man #2: BECAUSE AT THE END OF THE DAY, WE JUST NEED SUPPORT.


AND, YOU KNOW, LIKE I SAID, SOCIAL WORKERS ARE THE CLOSEST THING TO THE KIDS. Man #1: I BELIEVE THE SOCIAL WORKERS PLAY A BIG ROLE IN THE EFFORT THAT THE CHILD OR KID HAS SO THAT THEY CAN KEEP THEIR GOAL OF ADOPTION OR WHATEVER GOAL THEY HAVE STRONG. Man #2: YOU ALWAYS GIVE US HOPE THAT THERE’S SOMEONE OUT THERE THAT WILL BE WILLING TO LOVE US. Man #3: SO, BASICALLY, SOCIAL WORKERS ARE THE BOMB. .

Dear Huxley welcome to your forever family a family that will never give up on you when we first met you last year it was really hard to get to know the real you you guarded your heart fiercely and rightfully so we have no idea all of the things that you’ve been through before we met you and then slowly but surely you started opening up and boy was it amazing your smile could light up the entire room coming home added so many firsts and so many different things to explore exploring life exploring your surroundings exploring literally everything and it was so beautiful and awesome to watch but not every day was perfect we went through lots of ups and downs and experienced some very very hard days but don’t worry we’re not giving up now and we’re not giving up ever because you have a family that loves you and cherishes you more than words can ever express someone to give you kisses and hugs even if you don’t want them a family that will fight for you no matter what and always be there for goodnight snuggles this year you also met some pretty incredible people that love you like crazy grandparents aunts uncles and family members that are absolutely amazing and want to make special memories with you just so you know you got something special kid you danced your own beat you’re not afraid to be you you’re unapologetic like your mom and when you want something you’re not afraid to go for it you also made a best friend in crime your sister Jacob and yes the love is completely reciprocal she talks about you all the time also for once you just get to be a kid no longer having the word orphan attached to your name this year you dance with the ones you love and smiled bigger than ever if only your birth mom could see this video she would be so proud of you and don’t for one minute think you’re not wanted special or love you’re so incredible and we love you so much you really did change this family for the better you also went on some pretty amazing adventures that I could have only wished for when I was your age you’ve traveled to seven states in just one year and I have to admit Disney was a total hit you may not be crazy about sand but you love the ocean and you love the water and it’s amazing to see you explore new and different things your passions include hair food toys and cars including all of the gears and you love to make people laugh well little guy you no longer have to stand alone because you now have a family to do all of those amazing fun things with to share your giggles your memory is your laughter your good times and the bad times we’re here to walk that journey with you and I’m super excited to see what the next year holds for when you turn into a big brother sleep tight and can’t wait for the next year


what’s this 18 years old when she put her newborn daughter up for adoption and she has spent the last few decades searching for her with no luck that is until her daughter who had no idea who her birth mother was used one of those at home DNA testing kits in moments they’re gonna meet each other for the first time right here but first their story watching I was 18 when I had her I loved her from the very start and I would always have loved her what I wouldn’t been able to give her anything else but love and you can’t do that to a baby how baby needs more than love I’ve always known that I was about to the only information that I had was that my mom’s a twin I thought about her a lot her birthday Christmas Mother’s Day wondering where she was and how she was doing and if she looked like me I always had this if but I always knew I did the right thing I had a great time a great family great the best friends we traveled every year we camped every year so that a good life I searched for her for 26 years I just kind of went I was adopted I probably wasn’t wanted at that time and I think I just went with that that that’s what it was and why would she be looking for me the adoption records were sealed so everything always came to a dead end I was raised completely Italian and polish and I really wanted to know was I really Italian and polish so I asked my husband and I said will you please you kept me a DNA test for Christmas I said I might ask it was a close relative they said that we likely shared the same grandparents so I connected to the one cousin said is there any chance that you have an aunt that is a twin and so that he sent me back a message he’s like I have an aunt who is a twin and she gave up a child for adoption in the late 1970s he’s like when’s your birthday and so then I said I’m back June 12 1977 and immediately sends me back a message my aunt gave up a baby June 12 Oh and Roseann fuller joins us now Roseann thank you so much for being here so you did you know that you were adopted growing up I’ve always known I was adopted okay your parents were open about that yes they were and what age were you when you decided to consider finding your birth mom it was I thought about it more as I got older probably in my teens and progressively as I had gotten older but my initial desire to do the DNA test wasn’t to find my birth mother it was figure out the Italian are you really silly ancestry yes okay and when you did look into like could I find my birth mom is even possible did you get anywhere no no because through the Catholic Charities it was completely sealed so there wasn’t any information to be had when they say sealed it C it’s C like you’re not gonna get it it doesn’t if the birth mother and birth father don’t want you to have it so you decide to do the DNA test figure out whether you really are Sicilian and you thought the big shock might be you’re not Sicilian I thought that would be the big shock yeah but there was something else on that 23andme result sheet you got that said what it links you with all different DNA relatives and on that one of the DNA relatives was someone they said would be my first cousin and likely that we shared the same set of grandparents so when you call this guy and you exchange the information about do you have an aunt that’s a twin and did and he’s like yes and she gave up a baby on how long did the whole thing take between let me see my results and oh my god I found my birth mother we started messaging back and forth probably Friday afternoon and by Saturday afternoon mystery solved we know Wow how does your mom feel about the whole so that sometimes it’s hard on the mom it’s I think it’s been hard on my mom yeah but it should it be I mean it’s you know no my mom is my mom she will always be my mom yeah no matter what you know to know to know who your birth mom was I think I wanted to know like health information and you know you like as soon as you look at yourself you see families and you say this person looks like this person and and I had no there was no backdrop there was no frame of reference for me and so I was kind of just curious about that so you figure out who it is and you and she have spoken on the phone we’ve spoken on the phone we’ve seen pictures we’ve seen each other we’re Facebook friends and you haven’t met in person yet until today so why is that why did you choose I think I’ve been a little slow on it I think everything that like Kathy has told me I’ve had to process it and I had to like think about it and so I think I’ve just been like testing the waters and going kind of slow with that sitting here now I mean I’m doing an interview you’re sitting there thinking in a minute I’m gonna meet the woman who gave birth to me and what will you be looking for you know like if it’s one thing to see pictures it’s another to be staring face-to-face with this genetic link I think just a connection like do we look the same do we have the same mannerisms yes yes do it yes well I have to tell you that Kathy has told us she is so excited and nervous for this she has not been able to sleep a wink in days she’s here and when we come back the moment we have all been waiting for Roseanne we’ll meet a birther a happy face to face we’re back now with Roseanne fuller she recently found her birth mother who gave her up for adoption 40 years ago that woman’s name is Kathy Smith and she’s on the other side of this wall the two have spoken to each other on the phone but they have never met in person until now are you ready Roseanne and Kathy why don’t you two walk forward and say hello to each other you could just take a seat right there how you feeling nervous oh it’s scary right it yeah it’s gotta be how are you feeling now I’m okay yeah right I was just saying during the break for us this is this is great TV and for you this is something that’s far more emotional and involved Kathy take us back to that you know 40 years ago you were just 18 years old and and why did you decide to give her a rose Anna um I could only give her love my family was behind me I have a really close family and from the time I knew I was pregnant I wanted her to have a family a mom and a dad that would be able to love her more than I could love her mm-hmm and just as much and there was no dad in the picture in in your case and and you did have a secret that you had to reveal to Rosanna when you guys spoke on the phone about the night she was conceived yeah which was what his date rape and he took off when he realized you were pregnant yeah how is that Roseanne when it when you learned that I can only imagine that really bothered me yeah that really bothered me I guess I always think you know everyone should be having a good time when kids are made and that really bothered me a lot yeah the you managed to get through him and a lot of women would have made a different choice but you decided to have the baby and there was a moment in the hospital first she didn’t think he wanted to see her no and then you changed your mind can you tell us about that in the hospital the last day I was in the hospital I had to hold her I just there was me and I carried her for nine months and there was something that told me I had to I had to hold her so it was feeding time and they brought her in a knife at her and it was time to give her back and as soon as I gave him back to the nurse she started crying like it was like I’ll ask goodbye but you gave her over anyway yeah and I know all these years you’ve thought about her and you had no idea you had no idea that you guys were living 20 minutes away from each other no no no I mean so it’s possible you passed each other in the grocery store or on the street we could have absolutely yeah and had no it you could have been like ma’am I was in first in line there right and I mean in a way it’s fortuitous that you took that test when you did because you separately unbeknownst to you of course we’re going through a medical issue that can be genetic that you ultimately told Roseann about what what is it let’s cut the factor 5 deficiency that causes blood clots and there’s something that if you have this it’s it’s helpful to know about it in advance because I had a double pulmonary embolism and so she told you about this and it is that something you can test for to see either yes I’ve already have itas been waiting to hear back on the results I think God you did it right absolutely that’s that’s so imperative to know that information can I ask you as a as a mom gave up her baby for adoption what did you worry what was your greatest worry over over the 40 years that she had a good life I wasn’t I was my biggest fear is that she my biggest fear is I wanted her to have a good life one that I couldn’t give her Roseann how has your life been it’s been a great life and you have a cousin you’re having Mary because my parents are great I have the best friends we’ve been friends forever I have a great life thank you both for doing this thank you for sharing your story with us and all the best to you both thank you hello today fans thanks for checking out our YouTube channel subscribe by clicking that button down there and click on any of the videos over here to watch the latest interviews show highlights and digital exclusives

I SAW IT THIS MORNING, PEOPLE TEXTED ME DID YOU SEE THAT I HAD HAD TO WATCH IT IN TWITTER. THE HOLIDAY SEASON IS A TIME FOR SINGING AND FAMILY. TONIGHT A MOVING HOLIDAY SPECIAL HERE ON CBS 3. A HOME FOR HOLIDAY FEATURES UPLIFTING STORIES WHOSE FAMILIES WERE CHANGED BY ADOPTION. OUR NATASHA BROWN CAUGHT UP WITH A LOCAL FAMILY WHO WILL BE FEATURED TONIGHT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THEIR ROAD TO ADOPTION. NATASHA. IT IS QUITE AN EMOTIONAL JOURNEY. TAKE CITIES PARTICULARS SHOW MORE THAN 138 THOUSAND CHILDREN IN FOSTER CARE, MANY TINA AGESERS HOPING TO FIND A LOVING HOME. A FAMILY MEANTIME WAS LOOKING FOR A YOUNGER CHILD WHEN THEY THOUGHT ABOUT ADOPTING THEIR PATH TOOK THEM IN A VERY DIFFERENT DIRECTION. WE WANTED A NINE TO 12 YEAR OLD GIRL. WE ENDED UP WITH A SIX THREE 16 YEAR OLD SON REPORTER: JUST AS THIS FAMILY’S EXPECTATIONS OF WHO THEY WANTED TO ADOPT CHANGE, SO DID THEIR LIVES WITH THE ADOPTION OF ETHAN SIX YEARS AGO. NOW A STUDENT AT SERIOUS UNIVERSITY, HE HAD BEEN IN THE WAFTEDER CARE SYSTEM SINCE HE WAS NINE YEARS OLD.


HE FOUND STABILITY WITH THEM WHO FOUND NEW LIFE ADOPTING A TEEN-AGER. WE DECIDED THAT WE WANTED A CHILD THAT WAS OLDER, AND WHAT’S REALLY GREAT ABOUT ADOPTING AN OLDER CHILD IS THEY HAVE A SAY IN WHAT PARENTS THEY WANT. WE WANTED TO GIVE, YOU KNOW, THE LOVE THAT WE HAVE AS A FAMILY AND THE STABILITY THAT WE HAVE AS A HOUSEHOLD, FOREVER, TO A CHILD THAT’S LOOKING FOR THAT. ETHAN ADAPTED WELL TO HIS FAMILY AND FOUND STABILITY IN HIS LIFE HE SAYS HE NEVER HAD.


I PERSONALLY DIDN’T REALLY KNOW WHICH WAY WAS UP AT SOME POINTS, AND KIND OF COMING INTO THIS HOME AND MEETING, YOU KNOW, MY GREAT FAMILY AND ALL THE FOLKS AROUND US, I HAVE STABILITY NOW THAT I NEVER WOULD HAVE OTHERWISE. YOUNGER SISTER CHARLIE APPRECIATES HAVING AN OLDER BROTHER. THEY ENCOURAGE OTHERS TO THINK OF A DON’TING, NOT JUST THE LITTLE KIDS, BUT TEEN-AGERS AS WELL WHO OFTEN FIND THEMSELVES AGING OUT OF THE SYSTEM WITHOUT A FAMILY.


I FOUND OUT THERE WERE PLENTY OF TEEN-AGERS OUT THERE WHO WERE PERFECTLY ABLE TO BE CONTRIBUTING MEMBERS OF SOCIETY, JUST DIDN’T HAVE A FAMILY TO SUPPORT THEM. WELL REALLY SUCH AN INSPIRING STORY THERE. THEY ARE NOW EVEN THINKING ABOUT ADOPTING ANOTHER TEEN-AGER AND ETHAN AND HIS SIBLINGS ARE LOOKING FORWARD TO THAT AS WELL AND EXPANDING THE FAMILY.


THEY RECENTLY WENT OUT TO LA FOR A VERY SPECIAL TAPING OF A SHOW THAT’S GOING TO BE AIRING RIGHT HERE TONIGHT ON CBS 3, A HOME FOR THE HOLIDAYS, IT AIRS TONIGHT AT 8:00 RIGHT HERE ON CBS 3 AND UKEE, LL COOL J IS GOING TO BE HOSTING IT, LOTS OF .

My name is Angela Tucker. Being adopted and raised by white parents created a unique lens through which I view the world shape my identity, and think about the word family. I’ve created The Adopted Life series to provide a platform for adoptee voices, and to give you, the viewer, an inside look on transracial adoption. Join me as we hear from those currently navigating the adopted life .

Today We’re Answering one of the Questions that, We get all the Time Every day Every Single day Every Day and we’ve Had a crazy busy, day it’s been Like Dance and Soccer and Cheer and everything it’s been so busy , Cody is still at football, Cody’s not here and yeah We thought We Would Just Take A few Minutes tonight and answer One of the Questions that We get asked all the Time and that Is Why, do you change Their Names? Yes Ok to start off with that We don’t Change their Names it’s not up to Jared and I what we do but it is up to them on if they do or not That’s Whether They Change Their name or not so when they go to get Adopted They Have a choice They’re Their lawyer extra Gives Gives Them a choice do you Wanna Change your Name some of our Kids are like nope Had my Name Forever loved it not Changing it and some of them wanna Change it and We do we do kind of recommend they Change it, well some of the Names They Come up with are like crazy names We try to go and Pick Their Own Names but Some of them were a little crazy? so, well Their Names Have Been Picked by fans that’s True so we thought, we Just go each Through each Kid Tonight and Let Them tell you why, They changed Their Name and Yeah, why They Pick Their Name , yeah All right so you, were Adopted about a year ago or something like that What was your Name? Adian and How did you pick Harlen which at that Point real Quick, We Had in our Home and Aiden A Kaden and a Hayden When it was super Confusing yeah that was so he Decided When they Asked him that he Wanted to change his Name Now you Didn’t know what the hard Time Picking his Name you, did not know he Had A hard Hard Decision so we Actually asked you the viewers What you Think his Name Should be and We had A lot of suggestions Suggestion which was great Because We’re at a suggestion yes so we actually sat Down at the Computer and went Through all of Them and One of them Stood out and it was Harlan and he Picked it Really liked it Picked it yep And we loved it it’s a great name its perfect it fits him Yeah it’s great you like it I love it that’s a good Name all right who’s next Thank You Buddy Thank you all right Spencer.


Spencer! Spencer!! okay, oh you got down,your to short, get up , there we go okay, yeah Spencer, was James so And why Spencer, well I read it in A book and like the Character was Really brave so I chose That name . i didnt even know that , so he picked it out of a book Because He is a writer he Loves to Read to Read it Gets in Trouble in School for Reading yeah he Was doing Reading when he was supposed to be doing Math And he Read like Half the Book Just sitting Around the Couch Today he’s doing the I am Number Four Series So he Loves to read so All right let’s do Aubrie Can you Please Tell Everyone why you, changed your Name Because Because my friend I told her that I wanted to change my name Because um Because I wanted to I wanted to change my name Because She’s so excited You Told your friends you want to change your Name and but why it but.


Why, pick Aubrie because her name was Aubrie She wanted her Name She’s like I’m Taking your name Wait what was your Name what was your Name? Navaeh was her Name Which is cool but We Already Had an Anavaeh Alright next, well let’s Let’s go Ahead and do Addison Yeah I don’t know if She’s Coming Hey hey Can you Please Tell Everyone what was your Old Name? Ah Gianna , Gianna Which I love that name a beautiful Name but when she had the Choice to Change it Or not She Decided to change it to Addison and why did you pick at it? Is it because you stole your friend’s Name too? Yeah She, did She Totally stole her Friend’s Name you had A friend Yes so she, also had A friend Named Hadn’t Said I loved her Name So in her Class There was a gianna so she Okay, so, We love the Name and Great Choice and your Name, was oh yeah, okay? That’s that One all right Let’s do Let’s pick a little One Anavaeh Come Here Now she had A Beautiful Name her Name was Serenity which we Loved it loved it but When Everyone Else was Changing Their Names? She wanted to change her Stew in The Name that she wanted to pick was abigail she kept Telling Which We love that We love Thy Name too is abigail all the Time it even Called her serinity she would get Mad She’d Say my name is abigail my name is not Serenity it yeah, its abigail why? Did She Change it from abigail so Well then She went to Paige and She liked paige for a while and We loved that Name too But she kept Picking Names Picking Names and Picking Names and i mean if You Didn’t call her the new Name i mean you’re like wait am I thought your abigail and She Said no my Name is Paige So then we had One of our first Placements her Name was Anavaeh cutest little girl she was so Cute and We were going Through Names and I had Told her Anavaeh And when i said That Name it Just Stuck that was the one that She used the longest she loved it so Yeah anevaeh it is Did like Page so she kept that as her Middle Name yeah so paige Is her Middle Name She did I mean This Really Was her Choice and She was very very? Insistent yes More so Than Anybody Else Thank you Sweetie Braxton Braxton Hi! Braxton his Name was caden He, was one, of the caden, jaden, aiden 3 hayden a jaden 3 or 4 cadens Yeah and so at that Point When Serenity was Changing her Name They are Biological Brother and Sister yes There he Wanted to change his and he Came up with some Really Funny ones That They, were like not even Names Like Sometimes Just Numbers Or Whatever he was thinking We kind of Let The Family Vote on his and Kind of Come up with Different Names and Braxton Is One That Everyone Just Loved and Captain he Loves it and it Fits them Well so i always Think you May be something Shorter a little Easier to Spell Yeah Because Just Learn to cayden and Then we changed it to Braxton so he Had, did like start off to start, over Braxton But he likes it and We love them Who’s next, oh, okay, Mason Mason, oh? I know i’m here Buddy Mason Maybe what was your Name before? Chance Chance Chance Chance what’s His Name Name Which is a good Name I really like Them a chance but When he was given The Opportunity to change it Now where did You come up with Mason We were Trying to Decide on a name for Braxton? One of the Names, We had Said was Mason and he Loved it so much that he Decided to Keep it for his first yeah I Thought it was Because We had Just Bought Mason Jars and Put them all over We were decorating the Girls and I with Mason Jars so he Thought it was Funny that Is mine he was like all over that I thought it was yeah, We said Everywhere I think We Still have some? Here Love it Perfect for you to me yep All Right I think the last one Is Jacob Jacob and it’s Funny Because we Actually Forgot what, his Old Name was the other? Was his Name his Name was hayden he was hayden caden jaden Yeah he, was part of That very much so? Yeah and why, did you pick that why? Did you pick to say I don’t remember I know he Struggled Really hard to find her Name So cody’s Middle Name, was going to be that’s right yeah? so him and Cody Are very Close Still very Close and Cody his Name is Jacob so he was Gonna switch it and be Jacob Cody so they Would have the same Name but Opposite and Then He Didn’t Keep that so he did Keep that though and your Middle Name Is Wesley Which Is my Middle Name you? And After One other Cody and One After yep that’s not he Picked, his Name Which is Totally cool I love it Yeah Anyway so We support the Kids on if They want to change Their Name or not it’s up to them some of them Really like It Because it’s kind of A fresh start for them They’re Getting Adopted They want to do Name how how neat that you get to pick your Own Name and Been Good so Hopefully that answers your Questions if You have Any more Please put Them in The Comments Below Absolutely We’ll Try to answer Them yet as soon as, we Can when, we do Another Q&A, or something like that so? Thanks so much for Watching tonight yes Goodnight

Welcome back guys and this video is inspired by my video for my friend alex Brenna, if you want to check out alex’s video please do i’m going to put the picture in the video in the link there as well and I’ve decided to try out this Spoken word prose, poetry thing let me know what you think and if you enjoy it give it a thumbs up Dear Birth Parents, I’ve been thinking for all my life over the questions and thoughts that I have and even though my questions are as long as their infinite so it’s the time lost between us, I know none of this would make sense to you now, there were no words to bridge the gap that our languages face, no actions to bring by the past no thoughts that can be written I am a stranger to you and your ways we’re separated by oceans mountains and skies even though I carry your DNA and you have lived through my whole life as your survivor I would fool myself if I said it felt like you never really left instead it feels like a carry the makings of strangers, who crafted by face from their own fantasize that they gave me that grandma’s nose let me see them dad’s eyes but none of these may true anyway and I wouldn’t recognize them as they’re all strangers now who I am is a body caught between two lands and unable to meet the ties a forgotten girl who was left before she was found but she was somebody’s baby before she was an orphan, you are the only people that I am related to and yet i will never meet you or anyone i am half of both of you whether you meant for this or not, this is all I have to remember you by this body, this ship that carries me through my life, that makes people around me ask questions of why I speak good English and where I really come from and why I look different for the rest of my family that sets me apart from my friends from society is a constant reminder of who I am and where I come from and the constant notion that I don’t belong.


As I grow old I’ll grow old with what you gave me and i’ll see your faces in the mirror as I wither and age but I won’t recognize it any day, I have so much to tell you about my life what I’ve done who I’ve become, in the end I can’t communicate my loss and sadness to you as you’ll never know, although I can’t imagine the situation you’re in and why you had to make this decision a month after I was born, I don’t blame you for what happened I want to but I just can’t because I don’t know you, but I’m angry about the system for putting it’s people at risk leaving so many babies unwanted, a system devised to keep the population down, but looking at all the many broken hearts and forgotten children orphanages, it hardly feels like success, when people talk about loss they mean a person that presence or feeling and I have lost all of those things but most of all I’ve lost myself my identity my culture and even my name I am a leaf to the winds of change, I am caught in the irrevocability of time a victim to the system and I see so many like me whose lives are filled with questions and just blank spaces and the closest thing not go to the answers themselves they are throwing questions as if there were stones a heavy weight to carry and when sent into the vast ocean of answers just buried beneath the water never to be seen again and they are sad because they’ll never know any of this this poem and this fantasy is the closest thing now get to knowing and this haunts them until the very end, I don’t think anyone can really understand that what it’s like to grow up apart from yourself and your culture and your kin, however I have to move on I carry a pain that is inseparable from Who I am my pain is my struggle and my strife it is my weakness and my will survive I will live with it without falling to pieces and this is my promise is to myself I will make something from this there will be beauty and happiness from the ashes and fires that cinder my past and even though we may never meet I’m glad to be your daughter thank you so much for watching guys and I hope you enjoy this video if you did you get like share comment subscribe us usual stuff and hopefully see you in my next video, peace out !

I am asking for your help to help me fulfill a promise I made one week ago today I told two young brothers I will do my very best to help them get adopted together those were my words back in November of last year two brothers and separate foster homes desperate to live together they captured my heart as part of a Wednesday’s child report which is why I wanted so much for you to see what happened this week the brothers were seven and ten years old when I met them last October and one tray and kealan had been in child protective custody for three and a half years almost the entire time they had lived in separate foster homes the boys initially need a time apart to heal from their trauma but told me how much they longed to be together one day you guys are just about all each other has anymore right so you want to make sure you’re women this kind of emotion seeped out of both tray and kealan every time they saw each other it was only once a month and they never wanted to let go if you could have any wish come true right now what would that wish be them we’re gonna do our very very best to make sure that happens one month later someone stepped up he saw our story I was crying mostly because they just pulled at my heartstrings and I felt an instant connection with the boys and I said I’ve got to figure out how to get these boys in my home and learn more about them we’re gonna go in this store this is where we’re gonna have our pictures named now 8 and 11 Trey and kealan had been living with Robert Beck ever since but nothing formal that part took time no sir the brothers have no idea that time is now hi guys remember me and guess what today is Adoption Day seven months later the anguish of being a part is over and these two brothers get to grow up together just like that good job guys Trey and Kailyn are chosen and loved by a father older brother and a village of helpers if I adopted and I felt good tell me what happened today okay I’m talking how does that feel good are you happy yes thank you it’s easy to see over the last several months the brothers have gone from surviving to thriving just being able to give them a forever home and know that they’re forever – is just super special what do they mean to you I love them with all my heart all three of them what happens now in your life I go home you